Have a bucket list of things you want to do before, you know, you kick the bucket? Are you actually going to do them? Learn how to be fearless and live.
Everyone believes fearless people have no fear. Well, that’s wrong. Everyone, no matter how fearless they may appear, experience fear. People with courage and bravery have the same fears as you, but, they push through it. They learned how to be fearless and overcome daily fears. I mean, if you’re truly fearless, you’re probably a sociopath because everyone is scared of something
How to be fearless
So, when it comes to being fearless, it’s all about your state of mind. And once you’ve conquered one fear, there’s going to be another. That’s just life. The point is, you’re able to grapple with this emotion and use a method that works for you in turning your fear into something conquerable.
For example, I’m scared of being in a serious relationship, but the only way for me to overcome it is to continue to date and conquer this fear of being vulnerable. See? We all have something. We’re all scared of something, but we can all overcome it and learn how to be fearless.
#1 Be aware of your fears. What is it that really makes you fearful? If you don’t know what it is, then you won’t be able to overcome it. So, sit down and really think about this. For many people, living in fear is normal. So, don’t think you can overcome this over a cup of coffee. Write your fears down and really self-reflect.
#2 Look at what fuels your fears. This part isn’t going to be fun, it means you must look at your life and what’s caused your fears. Is it because your father abandoned you as a child? Is it because you didn’t graduate college? Just because you feel fear doesn’t mean something negative is going to happen to you. It could simply be because of a past situation that left you traumatized.
#3 Work on your confidence. Your fear and how you battle it is highly connected to your self-confidence. You’re scared because you don’t want a situation to repeat itself, you think you’ll fail, etc. But this is all linked to your mental state and how you don’t think you’ll be able to conquer what is ahead of you. This is when you start looking at how you see yourself.
#4 Prepare for failure. We will all fail at something. But here’s the thing, fearless people do not see “failure” as a failure. They see it as an opportunity to grow and learn from their mistakes. This is the thing, we all mess up at some point, we’re human. What you need to do is prepare yourself for those moments when you make a mistake, that’s it.
#5 Ask for help. If you’re fearless, you know when to ask for help. Being fearless isn’t about doing things on your own without anyone, blah blah blah. That’s just being arrogant. We all need help at some point and fearless people see help as something valuable. This is what makes them stronger when they see they their need for emotional, mental, or physical help, they ask for it.
#6 They see the future. Hey, the future they see may not turn out exactly like that, but they visualize where they want to be in life. They may not make it to that point, but the point is, they head in that direction. They know who they want to be in the future and what they want to do.
#7 They reflect. When stressed out, they’re not freaking out and panicking. They take some time to breathe and reflect on what’s going on. As a fearless person, they take the time to put things into perspective in order to recognize that their fear isn’t as big as they thought.
#8 Be realistic in the worst case scenarios. When scared, we don’t think clearly. In fact, we tend to blow up the situation. But fearless people take a step back and reevaluate the situation they’re in. What is really the worst case scenario? If you screw up your speech at work, what will happen? People will giggle, talk about it at the water cooler that day, and live their lives.
#9 Reward yourself. If you overcome a fear, no matter the size, reward yourself. No shit, overcoming a fear is a lot of mental and emotional work, so, you need to pat yourself on your back and reward yourself for what you overcame. Not everyone does that, but you did.
#10 Let go of the past. This is always easier said than done, but it’s something to try to do. If you want to be fearless, let go of the things that created this fear. For example, I was dumped but does that mean I should never date anyone again? Of course not, you move forward. Holding onto past fears only keeps you stuck in the past. That’s only cool if you’re in Back to the Future.
#11 Fear isn’t an enemy. Many people see fear as something that torments them, but this isn’t the right way to look at fear. Fearless people do not see fear as a burden, but rather, as an ally. Think about it, fear makes you evaluate situations around you that are in some way intense. What you need to do is think about why you feel this fear and if it’s rational.
#12 Make mistakes. We all make ourselves look like fools from time to time, this shouldn’t scare you though. You’re not the only one who make mistakes. So, embrace the moments where you may look like an idiot. It’s going to happen. Someone will laugh at you but this is normal. You’re going to make mistakes, don’t take yourself so seriously.
#13 Talk about your fears. Like I said before, everyone is fearful of something. But no one wants to talk about it which is really sad. Instead, we all act like we have no fears, no personal issues, but in reality, everyone is terrified. Talk about your fears with someone you trust, your family or friends. You’ll see how fearful everyone else is around you.