Love is the basic element required in every successful relationship but
Love doesn’t guarantee the success of a relationship
Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round and on the other hand cheating isn’t always a product of not loving your partner .
In fact loving someone doesn’t guarantee not falling in love with someone else,
Relationships work out mostly because of our head not hearts,
Relationships work out because of our emotional maturity ,empathetic intelligence and self-discipline because,
a time will come when you will see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy,curvy,rich and God fearing people than the one you’re in a relationship with
In times like that, love will not be of help
It is your self control that will help you your emotional intelligence and maturity will come to your rescue,and commitment will keep you going. With these characteristics no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you are committed to will always come first in your life.
Relationships is way beyond just love and looks
You think happily married people don’t see better people than the ones they are married to?
You think they don’t catch feelings and feel funny at times?
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great weapon that destroys that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone but building a relationship takes more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love,
We are fond of loving when it’s convenient and sweet
We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for the first few months and then what happens when you realize the feelings have dropped, then it’s your responsibility to make it work not Love’s responsibility anymore.
Relationships are never ready made they are built over time and it’s not always about love
It requires attitude, commitment and intelligence,
In the long run of marriage
It’s not love that keeps them together but determination and commitment
Everyone falls in love
It takes little or no effort to do that but staying in love is something beyond that scope, only the strong and committed ones do that.
A guy can always walk up to you and tell you those three little words and actually he means every bit of it and 4 months down the relationship you see him hooking up with your friend
And all you go on saying is
He’s a monster
My dear he isn’t
Sustaining a relationship takes attitude,discipline and commitment
Thats why you have to find that special someone you can commit to and then the both of you discipline yourselves to bridle your emotions.
Building a Relationships is hardwork just like building a career,its always tough at some point it can be so bitter at times but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through by being focused and committed, because the kind of love that attracts people is not the type that keeps them together .
If you must build a successful relationship
You must be emotionally strong, self disciplined, totally committed, absolutely understanding
you will need a good attitude too,
You must be supportive and sacrificial
Submissive to one another
And never allow anyone come between the both of you
Because it takes being one to be in a relationship and if someone ever comes in between the both of you thats the beginning of the end of that relationship .
Last last my sister know this
you can never bond a relationship with sex
Forget how good you do it
It would never be good enough
Sex is not everything and if you do it when it’s wrong you might get it all wrong
Remember the popular saying
“Cinderella lost her slippers not virginity,
You don’t need to have sex to find your prince. “