“You’re just being overdramatic again.”
He should never be invalidating your emotions like that. If you’re reacting to a stressful situation in your own way, it shouldn’t matter that you’re being overdramatic or not. As your boyfriend, he should be calming you down. He should be empathizing with you. He should be doing his best to help you gain better perspective of the situation to give you peace of mind. He shouldn’t be invalidating your feelings just because he thinks you might be overreacting to something. He should always be taking your feelings and opinions seriously.
“If you really loved me, then you would…”
This may seem completely harmless at first; but what you don’t realize is that this is a blatant form of emotional manipulation; and you shouldn’t be buying it. He shouldn’t be manipulating you into doing something. He shouldn’t be asking you to prove your love for him by asking you to do selfish things. Love is never selfish. He shouldn’t be asking you to prove your love in such a manner. A big part of what makes a healthy relationship is trust.
“Why can’t you be more like my ex?”
Comparisons to other girls or other relationships in general are always out of bounds. This is something that you should never have to tolerate in the relationship. But it’s even worse when he actually has the gall to compare you to his past flames and former girlfriends. He shouldn’t be making you feel bad in such a way. He should be constructively criticizing you out of love and sensitivity. He shouldn’t be doing it just to hurt you and make you feel bad. And he should be looking at you as a person; not as an object that he can compare to other things and experiences.
“Can you just shut up for a second?”
You should ALWAYS be allowed to talk and express yourself in your relationship. When you have a man who tells you to shut up; this is a guy who is to immature to actually pay attention to your needs. This is a man who isn’t really interested in growing and listening to whatever you might have to say. This is a guy, you can’t rely on to make you feel safe about expressing yourself. This is a man who would rather silence and censor you.
“You should just stay at home where you belong.”
You shouldn’t have to settle for a man who wants to suppress your ambitiousness and your drive. If you want to go out and make a name for yourself, you should just go right ahead and do so. You should never be afraid of just going after what you want. Your place is wherever you want to be; and he shouldn’t be limiting your opportunities.