1. Be determined
Whatever will happen will first happen in your
mind, so you need to decide to never entertain the
thought of ever cheating on your spouse.
The thought will cross your mind, but you can’t
allow it have a firm grip in there.
You should choose to hold your end of the bargain,
regardless of what your spouse does or does not
Of course, I have to repeat here that being faithful
is not an easy thing to do as you’ll be tempted a lot
and your determination alone might not be enough,
which is why you need the other.
2. Limit opportunity
If you never get in a situation to cheat on your
partner, you’ll most likely not.
Hence, it’ll do you a world of good to limit or totally
cut off ties with everyone who might be too
tempting to ignore.
Stay away from old flames and people with whom
you’ve had sexual relationships in the past.
3. Get your spouse involved
Becoming married or getting into a relationship
does not mean that you have to leave every other
person you were once close to.
However, to avoid the temptation of falling for
someone else, or them falling for you, you need to
always find a way to remind them [and yourself]
that you are now committed to someone else who
deserves your loyalty.
Wear your wedding ring, find a way to bring up
your spouse’s name in conversations with them.
That, plus your strong determination to be faithful
should be enough to ward off any chance of
becoming tempted to cheat.
4. Keep your emotional issues for your partner
When your partner offends you, or does something
wrong, and refuses to see reason with you,
sharing it and asking for someone else’s opinion
might seem like the easiest thing to do. [Especially
someone of the opposite sex]
You say “I just needed someone to talk to and he
or she was there.”
Well done. Continue.
You should know that sharing sensitive information
about each other is how many emotional bonds
Soon a shoulder to cry on might soon become a
‘rod’ to ride on.
Do not get too close. Do not build that emotional
connection. You’ll not be able to fight that
temptation to cheat.
5. Seek assistance
If you feel tempted to spark up a relationship with
someone else, tell someone.
Just tell someone.
Of course the best people that people often find it
easy to talk to in these instances are their spiritual
heads, and it’s just fine.
Talk to your religious head if that’s who you can
fearlessly confide in.
In the instance where you do not have any, or you
feel they cannot be completely trusted, then you
might want to meet with professional advisers/
Get out, get help! [It might not be a bad idea to go
see the professional with your spouse if you are
All in all, staying faithful and true to any exclusive
relationship requires so much work, and you
should be ready to do what is needed.
If not, why on God’s green earth are you in the