If it stays around long enough and loads of people
engage in it enough, it becomes part and parcel of
the culture, tightly stitched into the fabric of
Somehow these habits swim into mainstream
relationship ideas, too. They become accepted as
ideals just because they have been around for
Needless to say, some of these things are not
always great for your relationship; as a matter of
fact they could be outrightly referred to as toxic
habits; and no matter how far-spread they have
become, they’re still to be disallowed in
relationships because of their damaging effects.
We list below 3 of these common but terrible and
damaging relationship traits…
1. Keeping scores
It would have made sense if couples were actually
keeping scores of great things they did for each
other, so as to always appreciate them for it and
return the gesture, but of course, you know that’s
not what most couples do.
They’d rather keep track of all your mess-ups
from the past and never make you forget about it.
It’s bad enough that they wouldn’t stop talking
about it no matter how much you apologise or how,
but they’d go a step further and try to get revenge.
Obviously, this type of habit is not what is found in
2. Dropping hints
Without mincing words, babes are guilty of this a
How do you desire something or feel a displeasure
towards a certain thing but refuse to communicate
this to your partner?
Instead of communicating as good partners are
supposed to, they drop hints which are always
vague as hell and expect their partners to catch
those hints. When that partner does not, they sulk
and make life difficult for him.
This is so bad for that relationship because it
shows that you two are not comfortable
communicating openly and clearly with one
It is better to state your feelings and desires
3. Buying solutions
It’s like getting high on weed… clouding up your
brain with fumes of happiness because you want to
forget your worries and concerns.
Of course, the smoke will blur the problems on
your mind… but only temporarily. The smoke will
be blown away and you will be faced again with
those things you’re trying to hide from.
In relationships, you just can’t mask your issues
with fun trips and beautiful gifts… they’ll hold you
together for only a while.
And just like improperly-glued ceramics, you both
are coming apart soon.